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No More
The constant emergence of molestation/sexual abuse in the guestbook, clearly suggests that this is a pertinent issue wich needs to be addressed. Whether the guestbook is the right place for it is a non issue as far as I am concerned. What is at the heart of the matter is the number of persons who have suffered and continue to suffer on a daily basis at the hands of such cruelty.
The question to be asked is, what are we going to do about it. Do we sit on our laurels and get upset at those who are trying to find solace by talking about it at a forum that allows them the previlige of anonymity or do we show some empaphy? After following the discourse for some time now, I have come to the conclusion that it is high time perpetrators pay for their sins. Too often we allow persons to go off scotch free, just because we perceive them as the elite. I think it's time we take the wool off our eyes and see through their disguise. The guilty must pay regardless who they are, not withstanding the fact that one is innocent unless proven guilty.
For those of you who can take off that armour of pain and open those lifelong wounds to air your views, I say bravo. I do hope you get justice. To those who criticize, the rest is up to you. I rest my case.
posted by Positive Vibes at
8:45 PM
2 Comments:
Sometimes I feel llike we are fighting a losing battle here, when this topic started on the guestbook, I made it may duty to tell others if they don't feel comfortable discussing it on the guestbook, get to the blog, It's no ones fault that everyone doesn't know how to get to the blog, but the sure kow hoe to get to the guestbook, so hence the reason why they vented out on the guestbook. The blame for the topic ending up the way it did, was soley on yours truly. Frankly it doesn't matter, because i'm scared of no one. We ofen talk about an issue and when it comes for us to take action, we back off. Hence the reason we remain stagnant. If we as a community come together and tackle the problems that we have wanted to eliminate in years, we can make a difference, but if we know there is a problem and when someone tries to get to the bottom of it, they get all kinds of negative responses, where do we go from there?
Well as for me I am determined to continue talking as long as I have the breath of live. I love my country and community, everyone knows that, and if today we are alot more equipt with the resources to deal with our problems, why don't we take full advantage of it.
Women and Children have been abused for too long, be it mental, physical, sexual or any other kind of abuse, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that there are not men who are abused as well, but most of the abuse has to do with women and children. Years ago, i could not stand in front of my mother to tell her that i got my period, I would hang my head when someone told me I'm pretty, remember if you looked at someone who was talking to you while thay were talking you were rude, and if you didn't look you were yelled at to please look because it you this person is talking to. We were so ignorant about our own bodies, what was I able to tell anyone about virginity, or having sex for the first time, no one told me anything about my body, most of us grew up completely ignorant about ourselves. It's sad, and now the younger generation, are quite knowledgeable about alot more stuff than we were, we still want to chole them with our senty ways, that didn't get us anywhere.
I think that a parents are supposed to have heart to heart discussions with their children. i am not expecting a child to tell his/her parents everything or even be their best friends. no child can be his?her parents best friend. This is an illusion that some parents have. We have our friends and so will our children. I expect every child now to be comfortable enough with their parents as to be able to tell them if something is not right in their lives, if something has been bothering them, if they are unhappy, even if they are unhappy about the life that their own parents are living, i expect our children not to grow up in denial, just like we did, let's put shame and foolish pride aside and let's deal with the reality that is killing society.
If a man uses his child or anyone elses child for his sick pleasure, are we supposed to just sit on our behinds and do nothing? How do we feel at the end of the day. Proud? Eh? Proud of what? Proud that we did nothing? Eh?
What happened on the guestbook sometime ago began as innocent as any other topic, but quickly got out of hand because it is real, it's real that people are being abused in the community. And is it my fault that people wanted an avenue to reach out? No. As a matter of fact I'm damn well happy that people were able to let the community know that there are wolves in sheep clothing walking around, and that there are persons that we should make our children aware of. I did nothing wrong. I will make no apology to anyone. I stand firm. One thing I know for sure is if the cap fitted anyone, this person has to have changed his behaviour in the last few weeks. For the children who's lives have been destroyed by these monsters, I say to you, one day, justice will prevail. You and i may not be here, but if we continue to talk about it, it will be talked about more openly in the near future. Your own children will be able to tell you about it, if you tell them about it as they grow up. make your children aware that there are people who will do unpleasant things to them that will make them very uncomfortable, and should this happen that they should talk to anyone who they think will help them but it the parent or the their best friend. let someone know that you are scared, that you are hurting and you need help.
Now for the protectors of these predators, yes i understand that you love your man, enough to let your own child suffer and even think of killing their abuser. Ok..."Stand By Your Man" I agree, but don't make your child feel at fault. You take time to go around and try make everyone believe that your Man is innocent. While your child hurts and is being looked upon as a liar. Take your time to sit with your child and help her heal. Let the Man do the going about and looking for mercy! Women in denial, sit and talk with a group of other women like you, you will find that you are not alone, that there will be others who will support you. Quit finding faults in the people who are trying to assist you. Quit seeing the one thing that has brought nothing but shame and sadness in your life. The Predator, the abuser, the sikko, the Perv, the molester, the pretender, the saddist, the monster.
As i rest my case, I call on everyone in our community to stand firm and stop these monsters from destroying the lives of our childrren, for our children are the future, what we want is a future of hope and not one where every second child you speak with is a victim of an abuser. Thank You. (Please correct my spelling errors..lol)
Oh Father lyrics-Madonna
It's funny that way, you can get used
To the tears and the pain
What a child will believe
You never loved me
[Chorus:]
You can't hurt me now
I got away from you, I never thought I would
You can't make me cry, you once had the power
I never felt so good about myself
Seems like yesterday
I lay down next to your boots and I prayed
For your anger to end
Oh Father I have sinned
[chorus]
Oh Father you never wanted to live that way
You never wanted to hurt me
Why am I running away
[repeat]
Maybe someday
When I look back I'll be able to say
You didn't mean to be cruel
Somebody hurt you too
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