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FW: You & Your Spotless Home!
First of all I came to your house because you invited me, not as a friend or parent of children that are best friends but you invited me to see what you have in your house that you think I wouuld be jealous of, but you don't even know me woman, I don't give a damn about anything any one has in their home, because you know what everyone's entirely different in taste.....
Ok I came , first of all when I got to the house I took my shoes off but for the life of me I didn't know where to put them, quickly you said 'Give them to me' which I did, you walked about two miles with the shoes to put them- I don't know where but anywayz I was left standing there not knowing whether I should remain standing or whether I should take a step fearing I would leave my size 9 foot prints on your well vaccumed floor and to make matters worse I didn't know what to do. UNCOMFORTABLE! Anywayz you came back from the shoe milage and ask me to come to the living room to sit, but I let you sit before me because I wanted to see how I should sit on your spotless chairs. You sat, with the tip of you butt on the chair, so did I. UNCOMFORTABLE! I wanted to talk about the kids, how they were doing in school and what we can do to help them but you wanted to talk about how much you bought this and this and that, and where the sale is and how much of this you have and what you see at COURTS.
Ok now my butt started hurting me because I was UNCOMFORTABLE!..
We shared a joke, it must have been very funny because I remembered myself laughing very loud and lifting my hand in the process..Woop...My hand pulled down the chair back and it fell behind me....You got your behind up and fixed the chair back as soon as it fell...UNCOMFORTABLE! Then I stood up and you fixed your chair as soon as I did...Awa we. Toneer!!!!!
I then got thirsty and ask you for a glass of water, you went to get the water for me and handed it to me. A very nice glass I must admit but when I finished drinking the water, your kitchen was so spotless I didn't know where to put the glass, well I felt I should just wash it my self but you said 'NO NO give it to me- but you washed it at once...UNCOMFORTABLE!
Damnnn!!!!.....I don't know enh! but...whenever I drink water, I donh know where a pee coming from but I had to use your tioilet.
I asked, and you directed me but since I saw how you were with your spotless home I wanted to just drop me pee and move fast, but you know how when you go pee sometimes I don't know where a anhvee caca coming from and it just taking you like that.
Well a anhvee caca take me in your toilet and I just could not hold it , I shivered thinking whether I should drop it or not..but noway it was coming and coming fast, i had to, I really really had to but while I was posting it in the bank I was so UNCOMFORTABLE, I thought I was contaminating your spotless house forever. I felt like it was a bomb I was droping because I know when i droping that, it's really not eating nice and boy I could sink in the ground when I saw your face as so as you went in to use the bathroom after me...I heard SHEEEEEEEEEE SHEEEEEEEEE SHEEEEEEEEEEEEE you sprayed your airfreshener I was so UNCOMFORTABLE.....I go try to postpone every anhvee caca I get at anybody's home again...
I decided to leave at that point, shame and embarrassment covered me from head to toe...embarrassed of the smell I left in your toilet and ashamed of the fact that maybe if you could you would spray my behind.. you went to get my shoes for me and brought it all the way on the balcony stairs so that I could put them on there, is then we....I realize that I had walked in your balcony with my shoes when I came and maybe if you had see me coming when I came you would have met met before I got to the balcony and have taken my shoes from there, so I would not have made the mistake to walk in the balcony with my shoes in first place....
Anyway my friend Goodbye....I can never go to a house that I feel so UNCOMFORTABLE in again.......
A Spotless House Makes Your Guests Very UNCOMFORTABLE!
Ok I came , first of all when I got to the house I took my shoes off but for the life of me I didn't know where to put them, quickly you said 'Give them to me' which I did, you walked about two miles with the shoes to put them- I don't know where but anywayz I was left standing there not knowing whether I should remain standing or whether I should take a step fearing I would leave my size 9 foot prints on your well vaccumed floor and to make matters worse I didn't know what to do. UNCOMFORTABLE! Anywayz you came back from the shoe milage and ask me to come to the living room to sit, but I let you sit before me because I wanted to see how I should sit on your spotless chairs. You sat, with the tip of you butt on the chair, so did I. UNCOMFORTABLE! I wanted to talk about the kids, how they were doing in school and what we can do to help them but you wanted to talk about how much you bought this and this and that, and where the sale is and how much of this you have and what you see at COURTS.
Ok now my butt started hurting me because I was UNCOMFORTABLE!..
We shared a joke, it must have been very funny because I remembered myself laughing very loud and lifting my hand in the process..Woop...My hand pulled down the chair back and it fell behind me....You got your behind up and fixed the chair back as soon as it fell...UNCOMFORTABLE! Then I stood up and you fixed your chair as soon as I did...Awa we. Toneer!!!!!
I then got thirsty and ask you for a glass of water, you went to get the water for me and handed it to me. A very nice glass I must admit but when I finished drinking the water, your kitchen was so spotless I didn't know where to put the glass, well I felt I should just wash it my self but you said 'NO NO give it to me- but you washed it at once...UNCOMFORTABLE!
Damnnn!!!!.....I don't know enh! but...whenever I drink water, I donh know where a pee coming from but I had to use your tioilet.
I asked, and you directed me but since I saw how you were with your spotless home I wanted to just drop me pee and move fast, but you know how when you go pee sometimes I don't know where a anhvee caca coming from and it just taking you like that.
Well a anhvee caca take me in your toilet and I just could not hold it , I shivered thinking whether I should drop it or not..but noway it was coming and coming fast, i had to, I really really had to but while I was posting it in the bank I was so UNCOMFORTABLE, I thought I was contaminating your spotless house forever. I felt like it was a bomb I was droping because I know when i droping that, it's really not eating nice and boy I could sink in the ground when I saw your face as so as you went in to use the bathroom after me...I heard SHEEEEEEEEEE SHEEEEEEEEE SHEEEEEEEEEEEEE you sprayed your airfreshener I was so UNCOMFORTABLE.....I go try to postpone every anhvee caca I get at anybody's home again...
I decided to leave at that point, shame and embarrassment covered me from head to toe...embarrassed of the smell I left in your toilet and ashamed of the fact that maybe if you could you would spray my behind.. you went to get my shoes for me and brought it all the way on the balcony stairs so that I could put them on there, is then we....I realize that I had walked in your balcony with my shoes when I came and maybe if you had see me coming when I came you would have met met before I got to the balcony and have taken my shoes from there, so I would not have made the mistake to walk in the balcony with my shoes in first place....
Anyway my friend Goodbye....I can never go to a house that I feel so UNCOMFORTABLE in again.......
A Spotless House Makes Your Guests Very UNCOMFORTABLE!
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Phyllis, I wonder if those people thing they can take their "nice" house with them to the grave? My experience with people with those spotless houses is that they are very lonely on the inside. They use all their energy cleaning because they have nothing else to do, no friends to talk to. But as a dear friend once said, beware of appearances. Look forard to more of your blogs. Love, Peace and Blessings!
Yes I really do think that a home is supposed to look like there is life in it..and why do we buy the things? Are they not for our children to enjoy..why do we prevent our kids from sitting on our so called lovely sofa's...you know how it looks when a child is yearning to enjoy what's in their homes and they are deprived of doing so.....where do we then send them...on the streets..right? Who is best to enjoy what we have at home...or children or a stranger.. I agree a home should be inviting but not so spotless that your guess doesn't know if he should take a step and whether he should just sit...for fear that he will be sitting in the wrong spot.
Well let's look at this from a different angle and let us not be too quick to pass harsh judgement. I love a spotless house. I love to come home to a sqeeky clean place, espicially after a hard days work. I suppose things might be different when I have kids but for now if my house is not spotless i feel uncomfortable. On the other hand I try to make my guest very comfortable and not clean after them, but wait is there something so wrong in asking someone to use a place mat/coaster instead of placing the wet bottle of glass of juice on the wooden table, which will leave a ring! Come on now is that so bad?
Your opinion is welcomed and No I don't think it's a problem if you ask one to use the mat. the coaster etc...Like I said everyone is different in their own unique way, but it's the way some of us go about doing things, to make a visitor uncomfortable when he visits. In as much as you love a sportless home...you are free to you know...I like a clean home too but I also like to feel that there is life inside my home....if the dishes are in the sink..thank God..we ate...I think it's quite ok if I visit someone's house and say the dishes are not done...I don't really make that a problem....as a matter of fact if I come to visit someone I may leave and not notice certain things in the house...because that's not what I came for...and of course I know that there are many of us who love a spotless house...I don't have any problems with peoples spotless homes...is their attitude that is sometimes a big deal...thanking you for your comments and I must say I'm looking forward to the opposite side of this too...no harsh arguments we love to agree to disagree here.. we just blogging and giving our opinions...I love to share opinions...Keep the love flowing here...that's how we roll.
Then again we have to look at O.C.D (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) in both ways...the very untidy case and the obsessed with cleanliness ones...we sometimes think that it's only the very untidy persons that's sick but ever so often the very tidy person is just as sick...sometimes even more so than the sloppy one. So in as much as we want to have a sparkling home, we should take note of the extent we are going to keep it this way...some of us will even notice it someone touch a flower pot...because on of the leaves pointed to a certain object in the house...we also keep straighteninf things all the time...hey....that's one of the biggest signs.
I agree attitude matters a whole lot. But think about it for a min. what if the host does not have any awareness that he/she is making the guest uncomfortable huh? what about the guest then, would you say something or leave grudgingly and never return and then tell others about it (gossip). As you said Phyllis, there is such a thing as OCD and it usually comes with buckets of shame... and those who seek help really want to stop but they can't. they wish they could and it can be very frustrating.
Can I say again I love a spotless house, NO DISHES IN THE SINK, NO CRUMBS ON THE FLOOR, THE CURTAINS PULLED BACK IN A CERTAIN WAY, the cushions upright and so on, there is no OCD there lol... and no children obviously he he he...
You got me chuckling out of control!...lol..we'll have to take a little visit to the doc you know...lol...common even the cushions upright...you surly know how to get me cracking...still cracking
And no children so you have alot of time on your hands, when you do have to work,and you have a couple of kids to take care of and a husband, and errands to run, and maybe sometimes classes or school between all your schedules, give me a little call and tell me how the cushions are and if you can get the laundry done daily as you did befroe...ok hun..lol...I'm enjoying your posts....but I'm proud of you...that you are able to keep up for now...I am also in the process of puting up another topic so we can continue having more discussions on other topics...but don't let this topic sink...we'll keep up the discussions here too...
No I don't think you should not address the matter in an appropriate manner, and I certainly don't think you should go about discussing with others what just happened to you.. and I mean mentioning names as well... I'm not for that behaviour at all..hence the reason for my post...not that it's a true experience...but from talking to others I realized that not only have I noticed some of those things I mentioned but others have as well...and I think the people who are not aware, should know...but you know, just like it's hard for us to tell someone they have really bad breath, sometimes we tend to save the realationship by remeining silent, which doesn't always work because like you said the person may not be aware. so we find little ways of going about addressing the topic in general. I think there are lots of issues that we (women) would like to sit and have a constructive discussion about...I believe in sharing ideas, that's when we realize that, of course there are better ways of doing stuff...that there are other people who have simple ways of doing things that works perfectly and that we never even thought of..that's what happens when we communicate with others...we gain knowledge, while we give knowledge as well...sometimes we may not notice that the slightest thing we may tell our peers or someone else...is a load of food for the brain to this individual ....because lets face it we are all very smart in our own unique way...and sometimes I may have spent years trying to come up with a solution to a problem and because I have not spoken to anyone about it...I am stuck with repeating the same mistake over and over again. So I think we should tackle each issue or problem together or at least with a second or third party and address it in general. We sometimes have to look at things vice versa..and even then we don't understand..
To get u cracking even more, I fold my dirty laundry instead of just dumping them in the laundry basket ! nut case huh? lol The truth is I used to be like that, but with everthing else in life we need to learn from our experiences and grow. I realized that I was driving myself crazy by being so ANAL about these little things and needed to change quickly if I wanted my stomach problems for example to stop. So now my dear sister I have learnt that I should not sweat the small stuff and not to take life too seriously... life is to be enjoyed after all and that we should do. It took me a while, to be honest but I manage to leave the house one day without MAKING MY BED! I felt free but I could still hear my mother's voice saying "never leave ur house dirty when u leave as u never know what's going to happen to u on the way" How many of u have heard that huh? I bet quite a bit. I have nothing against the mothers but God bless them, they tried... But what they did was to instill fear into their children, which would later manifest in all kinds of ways as adults for e.g. fear of taking risks, ANXIETY, OCD and so on..
and as for reading, getting knowledge and sharing, i couldn't agree more. I information that promotes growth! Thank God for an open mind!
Girlfriend this can't be more true about leaving the home a certain way when we leave...and yes we did have some tough love growing up..lol now when I think of this kind of tough love I laugh and shake my head...because our parents truly thought that was the right way...but to tell you the truth...some of it I think should still be practised while some should be given a second thought. When you mentioned that I didn't fail to remember that of our panties...we used to have some cloth panties for the house and some nylon ones to go out...we were never to leave the house with the torn cloth ones because we had to think of falling at the side of the road and being rushed to the hospital in those...they didn't want to be covered in shame about what we had under or skirts if God forbid we ended up at the hospital after leaving the house in a home made panty which for some reason the elastic always gave way.....but believe me they thought they we doing the best for us...I never forgot my mother giving me my basin of kaban peesa on my head to go wash in the river myself at a very young age....she thought that would stop me from bedwetting...until she took me to the doctor one day and he noticed that there was a problem...she honestly thought if she did that to me ...I would stop..their way of tackling problems at the time...but our parents ignorance had them to do alot of things that they were unaware of at the time...boy I dreaded my friends seeing me with that little basin of kaban peesa going to lorviere patience...it really hurted me...but you know what...although childhood memories can never be erased ...we love our parents dearly...because we are happy that we are now given the opportunity to gain knowledge about these things and deal with them in an appropriate manner...Our tough love wasn't easy...lol...Patay anhyiene kee ahleerze! and I'm saying it now because there may still be someone who is dealing with a bedwetting child in the same manner...and is unaware of the pain that the child is going through...
a a bon! girl u have me laughing so hard me belly aching! It is a pity my written Patois is as good as my Spanish so I am not able to express myself in the Patois manner.lol
It is so true, there are still some values I think could be carried along from generation to generation, esp. when we St. Lucians migrate. We seem to forget what our mothers taught us- like saying please thank u. Going to bed at a certain time, not watching nonesense on T.V at late night hours. You know these values are not passed on to the children, no wonder things are as they are now. Now mind u I am not blaming the parents solely, however I believe they have a BIG part to play in what happens to their children. The important, little things are forgotten and children are allowed to play video games all day and night! because , guess what? yes u guess right- they have the lastest gadgets in their BEDROOM and T.V too. Now don't tell me it is because I do not have children that I am thinkig that way ? MA CRE SA (i don't think so)
On the panty issue. Man I remember we had to was the 'going out panty' as soon as we come from school, church, castries etc and put on the 'house panties' lol. It is amazing. Thinking back that must have made us more appreciative perhaps, compared to those who always had the 'nice' things.
It is funny though how parents often think of themselves(how others will see them, who will'bad talk' them) when raising their kids. I wonder how much of a good /not so good thing that is....
Let me tell you something about that giving kids all kinds of stuff thing...We parents feel so much guilt about not being able to spend time with our children, more so because both parents leave the home early in the morning and return in the evening tired and knocked out, that we feel that we can replace ourselves by giving them all what the Jones has. WRONG! These material things can never replace our love, attention and time....It's hard to know that some parents have to go through this...but it doesn't make a difference in the kids life...Sometimes I feel the need to just run back home to my family...because we leave the children...mainly to be better able to help them but when I think of it...I hurts me ...because I always feel that in some way...since I have stayed away from my family for this long....I can't blame them if the bond is no longer there when I return....I try my best to get at least my daughter with me as often as possible because my sons are a bit more understanding of our situation...but it's really scary...I have to be honest I try to give my kids what they need before what the want...but I do give them what they want sometimes..I don't go to the extent of bleeding myself for them but i try and I don't give them unecessary things....but the truth is children now-a-days do have to much side attraction...they don't play outdoors anymore..they don't go to church like we did, everybody you look at now has two strings hanging at the sides of their ears as if we are wired to something...and there is no more communication anymore...because how can you start a conversation with me when I have little cords hanging from my ears...technology has us by the balls(Sarry 'bout me langwage) according to Jamaicans..lol...Technology is good but sometimes I wonder how far will it go...because it has clearly made some of us crazy and out of touch with the real world. I remember my kids getting up from the chairs together when the clock struck nine to go to their beds...not now...not anymore..but at least they are all grown up now...but right now we have children watching TV till the wee hrs of the morning and sleeping in school...do you think that we will get back to where we were before...morally? I am "hoping" we do. There are so many things that's getting out of hand now...we as parents really need to have serious talks with our children...but there's only so much that one can do from a distance hence the reason for the whole community to take part in the upbringing of a child...some of us shame children for one small mistake instead of guiding this child...we have to understand that the children will make mistakes...hell we are still making mistakes as adults...let's learn to try guidance for our children instead of shaming them...we all have been given second chances in our lives.....but some of us choose to always repeat the mistakes that we have been making all the time...well for this one..I say forget it....Let them learn the hard way and even if it means tough love...when you do have kids you'll have a better understand of where I'm coming from..
I do appreciate where u are coming from and can only imagine what it must feel like to leave ur children in search of a better life for them principally. It sounds like it is a really difficult thing to do. I suppose I don't really have to have children to understand as I am trying to put myself in ur shoes and in most cases that is all that is needed- a bit of empathy. Parents have to make a lot of decisions sometimes- very difficult ones for their family. The truth is sometimes the children don't see it that way esp. when they are grown up- some will blame their parents for not being there. Every case is different and I am sure I cannot and will not sit here and judge anyone for getting or trying to get a better life.
On the subject of moral values- well who knows what that means anymore huh? I live abroad and I am appauled by what I see and hear. To say the least most of these young people do not know about God, have never been to church and so on... Imagine a 20yr old telling u he is an atheist well well well...
Everyone is about his or her own business , children erection signs on their bedroom door, parents need permission to come in or they cannot come in at all... Too much for me I think , so this makes me wonder how on earth am I going to raise my children? Seems like I am still in the 19th century!
on the subject of the community raising the children, girlfriend these days are gone! Peole are becoming afraid of even talking to others kids, with the influence of T.V and overseas (USA, UK) see what is happening... We need to PRAY for our children and the YOUNG parents of these children nowadays,only Jesus Christ i believe is the ANSWER
correction ...erecting signs, not erection (I wonder what I was thinking about lol) ha ha ha
Lol,lol, a little slip of fingers with our typing errors always gives us something to laugh about when we print without reviewing...which I am boos for...Well girl as for being scared of having to raise children, i think I have heard alot of this for the past years, but I think if parents took their time to work hard, build a home and put a roof on top of their childrens head, that these parents should be the parents and demand respect in their own house, you want to be boss, be boss in your own house, if parents today were not afraid of their own children the gave birth to, and take control of their children from the time they are babies. Parents should make sure that there is no child that's more man or women in the house than the mother and father.
Phyllis, truely amazing indeed. Nothign wrong with keeping a clean house at all no one wants to visit a nasty house either. I try to impart what my parents taught me to my kids I really think they think I'm crazy. As soon as I buy them something new they wearing it, they have everything in one pool, wear everything everywhere. It was easier when they were younger to separate out the clothes and the panties and ting, but now they're "tweens" it's a bit harder. I guess I pick my battles, it could be worst, if my biggest issues with them is not separating out the clothes, I can deal witht hat. Now keeping those rooms clean is another issue. Keep them coming darling.
Oh boy Vex you had me laughing all the way, I agree I house have to be presentable but if I come to you home and I know you have kids, believe me, that would be the least of my business if I see a rolled up sock in a corner, I have three children myself and I must tell you, when I pulled the broom on mornings, they would be jumping everywhere infront of me because the know everything that was left on the floor would be swept outside, they had fun running to pick up bows or toys....I always told them anything on the floor is gabbage...lol...I just think being too spotlesss is going way to far...it seem to be more of an obsession...again that's my opinion....anyways back to you on your story about your kids, girlfriend , it's hard to get kids to keep things straight...think about us when we were small...that was our parents songs to us...I Nate-twaii-yeah sham-ou...it just that we have to make sure the do it at least twice a week...but keeping it clean...awa...even us sometimes we are in a hurry and we go to our drawers and it remanins in a mess...we then take a day to straighted things up and we tell our selves that we won't mess up our drawers again....but you think it's easy...we have to rush to work...when we bathe we hardly have the time to, put lotion on our skin, because we have to get to the kitchen....we have to get here there everywhere...we all are so crazy in this crazy world....that we hardly have time for ourselves much less our families....and for that thing about buying them new clothes my girl...let them wear their new clothes...you know what sometimes it's better this way than for us to have regrets of them not wearing them...I'll give you one example, If you bought a nice dress for your little girl and she desperately wanted to wear the dress to church this Sunday, and you told her no sweety, leave it for New Years day...ok..fine mum I'll leave it....On Monday morning you are called at work because something dreadfull has happened to you little girl, and she may never get to wear this dress again...you would feel bad...so if you buy it for them...let them wear it...it's theirs already so..lol...That's just like saving bedsheets for when strangers visit...I'm very sorry...If my children cannot sleep on it...I'm not saving it for another...If one comes to my home...the bedsheet doesn't have to be new...it just has to be clean and presentable...so I let my children enjoy everything I have...I don't leave for strangers. If one comes to my home, he will not be disgusted but I will treat no one better than my family...If you can sleep on my new sheets, so can my children...If it's clean it should be comfortable....you know how painful it is for a kid to see a nice sofa in your home, that she is longing to get her little bum on...and mummy is saying you can't sit here, and this same child sees you and your friend sitting on that same sofa that you said she shouldn't sit on...I think we should train our kids to take care of what we bought to make them comfortable, but not restrain them from our luxury...It chokes them...I'm not saying you should not train your kids to be responsible and tidy...but there are times they will be sloppy...because right now...the studies have shown that kids that are too tidy...have probs....they have to do the things that kids do..and that includes a little sloppiness once in a while....but I think all of us get on their backs about tidiness...lol
"Never see come see". This is a serious case of OCD. I had the same experience and trust me that person never got the opportunity to do this nonsense to me a second time.
Lol..It is, it sure is OCD....but what is even worse is that they don't recognize it or they deny it...but deep down within I think they know that it's a very unpleasant, ugly thing to do to someone...and that OCD takes many forms.
Hey Phyllis, shout out from the USA,I also like a spotless home partly it was how I was rsised to be neat, clean, and tidy, I must also say whatever floats your boat, because I for one cannot function if my house is untidy my clothes not neat dishes washed etc, there is also a saying that says if you ar untidy your life and business are also untidy.
Hey Phyllis, shout out from the USA,I also like a spotless home partly it was how I was raised to be neat, clean, and tidy, I must also say whatever floats your boat, because I for one cannot function if my house is untidy my clothes not neat dishes washed etc, there is also a saying that says if you ar untidy your life and business are also untidy.
Of course i understand you, who wants to live in an untidy home, it's the people that are in a hurry to fix the chairback behind you while you are still sitting in their living room I have a problem with....and tell me, because when I enter a house that looks like no one lives there (meaning it's so well organized you think if you cough or sneeze, you will blow off everything)..lol, I really don't know how to go about in there....don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that people should kept their homes untidy but it's the obsession with tidiness that is really what I was trying to highlight...anyway girly thanks for sharing you opinion...looking forward to more blogging...Peace my girl!
My opinion on this topic is that too much time has been spent on the issue. There are better issues that we can spend our time discussing that will help us progress as a community.
Firstly, Phyllis, what makes life interesting is the diversity of cultures, characters, demeanours we encounter each day. like you mentioned, we are all different, in every way. Some people are very tidy, some people are very untidy; some are talkative, some are inherently quiet. Some people are inherently shy etc.
The individual in your story, is obviously a clean freak; however, I don't believe she intentionally tried to embarrass you. We all will be looking at the same object, and see something different about it, because we are indeed all different. I work in a lab, and I tend to set my labels on samples in a certain pattern, such as in the very center of the tube, etc, and it bothers me when others don't follow the pattern. The joke around is that I am OCD. We are all inclined to do things a certain way, and for many of us it is either inherent, or adopted from the environment that breed us.
When we approach life positively, we seek to see more positives in others and dismiss what we perceive as negatives. By beholding we become transformed; hence when we behold and dwell on negatives we become negatives ourselves. It behooves us to embrace the differences in others, rather than view them negatively. What we sometimes perceive as flaws in others are simply character traits that are different from ours.
Secondly, what you should have done, was to have a conversation with the individual about your discomfort. For example, you could have commented on the fact that she kept fixing the couch behind you, and that was embarrassing. We need to be honest with people, instead of turning around and making big story out of small incidents. This helps to build better relationships and help us become better citizens.
"We need to be the change that we want to see in the world. " Mahatma Gandhi.
MARCIA, I beg to differ
I thought that the piece by Phillys was a sort of satire that was put in a form of narration. I am almost certain that Phillys was not embarrassed per se or felt any discomfort. As your rightly put it the individual described may have been a clean freak - that may be good, bad or indifferent but I got the impression that Phillys was using prose to describe a certain class of individuals that most of us may have come across eg. the lady who would not step out of the house without a proper hairdo or face makeup, or the gentleman who is always immaculately dressed with well pressed pants and matching shirt and tie, or just generally a person who would not move an inch unless conditions were 100% perfect (especially if you know that 75% is the norm or the conditions which the person was used to. She may not have had any particular one in mind but that was irrelevant. Considering the style and wit used in her story I thought it was meant describe one type of individual that we may come across in our very diverse society. Nowhere did I get the impression that she was saying that something is wrong with the individual. All societies seem to have the "unusual" characters. Such characters usually are the attention grabbers in many plays, musicals,books, movies or pantomines. Such is the spice of life and we can enjoy reading or writing about them. There is not need to change them. I am not sure that the quote by Mahatma Gandhi is apt for this situation
Nick
Nick,
1) I got the satire from Phillys's piece, and did enjoy reading it too. However, there are also many instances in her piece, and further responses on the topic, of her expressed embarrassment and discomfort (both implicit and explicit).
2) We certainly should not want to change them. The truth is, most times we do, because we believe that their attitudes are not the right ones.
"I don't have any problems with peoples spotless homes...is their attitude that is sometimes a big deal..." Phillys.
My quoting Ghandi (I could have found another quote, but at the time I was reading on Ghandi), was for that reasoning (above, including other points in the dialogue). In my opinion, Ghandi's quote does qualify in this situation.
"The change we want to see in the world," does not imply only a grand political change, or a whole village. For "world" here can denote any sphere of influence one can/may have - even one-on-one.
Usually, no two analyses of a written piece will be the same. This is because we are (again) so different, and our views of the world varies. Hence, I respect your dissension.
Have a great holiday season.
Marcia
Nick,
1) I got the satire from Phillys's piece, and did enjoy reading it too. However, there are also many instances in her piece, and further responses on the topic, of her expressed embarrassment and discomfort (both implicit and explicit).
2) We certainly should not want to change them. The truth is, most times we do, because we believe that their attitudes are not the right ones.
"I don't have any problems with peoples spotless homes...is their attitude that is sometimes a big deal..." Phillys.
My quoting Ghandi (I could have found another quote, but at the time I was reading on Ghandi), was for that reasoning (above, including other points in the dialogue). In my opinion, Ghandi's quote does qualify in this situation.
"The change we want to see in the world," does not imply only a grand political change, a whole village, or a grand change in the course of history. For "world" here can denote any sphere of influence one can/may have - even one-on-one.
Rarely do you find two analyses of a written piece being the same. We see the world through different lenses. Hence I respect your dissension.
Have a great holiday season.
Marcia
Oh thank you very much Marcia for your classy response and for your best wishes. I wish more visitors to the site participated in similar discourses without feeling intimidated.
Happy Holidays!!
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