Sometime ago there were some unpleasant comments directed at me on this site, I recieved many e-mails from persons
asking me to either ignore the people doing it, in some mails people ask me how was I able to continue?,
if they were in my place, they would have stopped commenting on the site.
Well we all have different opinions, and for me, I am not one that lets negetavity destroy me, if I allowed this
I would not have been where I am today.
How did I do it? I applied the secret. I am determined not to let anyone do
or say anything to or about me to get to my beautiful soul. I have not time for negativity in my being.
Now apparently some people have a problem with my simple english, which is my unique way of getting my story out, I am not expecting everyone who reads my story to pull a dictionary to understand me here. Simple english has not died, it worked before, it should be able to work now.
This is why I have chossen to write about how we women treat each other, which is something that I have seen grow within our community, and something that, if not addressed will become a serious problem in society.
Now I will take the time to address 'Women' all of us, myself included. I know it was a woman or some women who were directing those remarks at me on the site. Men do not have time for such, or should I say, not many. For the record men have the time to love me, they'll send me a nice personal e-mail instead! Thanks Men!
Ladies, we all fit in one class (Women)
We may look, think, speak, act, do things, or even appear differently, but the truth is we are all the same. It's high time we stop
trying to destroy eachother, we are better than this, we have better things in stock for ourselves, we know better than that.
Growing up in the community, we watched our mothers, grand mothers, aunts, sisters, sister-in laws etc, go through the same
struggles that we are all going through these days. Somehow, we turn round and try to fight down or destroy eachother the
best way we know how to. Why do we feel the need to shame eachother, why do we feel the need to destroy eachothers
reputation.
We all relate to eachother in one way or the other, mostly all of us have been through the same struggles, some of us may be a little more fortunate than the other but nonetheless the ones who are, must know another woman who has seen the struggles.
For some reason or the other we feel big in our skins, when we say something we know will bring shame to another woman or hurt
her feelings. What then, if anything, do we achieve. Too many times we try to use our tongues to hurt a sister. If we want to make a change in society, why don't we begin with ourselves?
We have to begin from somewhere, let's begin with the (Moi) let us quit slapping each other with mistakes or bad judgements from their past lives, let bygones be bygones, if a sister is trying to make a change to her life, we feel the need to confront her with what ever dirt that we think we know, what do we achieve from doing this?
Why don't we improve, conduct, discipline, ourselves and live a legacy of decent ladylike behaviour for the younger ones who will replace us in society, what are we expecting for our children and grand children, more ignorance or a future of hope. Stop accusing, quit finding faults, with the other women amoung us.
Much has not changed, we still have far to go, we all know that we do. I look at us today, we do the same things we have been doing all our lives on a daily basis. Mind you this is what our ancestors did as well.
Women get up to the same old routines everyday, we carry the family burdens on our backs like a heavy load that we can't put down, we are in charge of everything that's goes on in our household, we make sure, that our future and the future of our families are safe, or at least going to be, we are still the old maids we have been years ago, it's like our place is only the home and the woman of the house, it's like it's only the women that's the parent, it's like it's only the women who know how to attend a parent teachers meeting, it's like you mother this and you mother that, it like we don't all know what we keep getting it all the time.
We know our own struggles, and that of other women like us, with relationships, families, economy, religion, children, education, and so on and we have seen the struggles of others, so let's shut our mouths about each other and try our best to support each other , the best way possible. For if it's one thing a woman knows it's the pain of another woman, she may not know the extent but we all know that we have been there or at least we know someone who has.
If we are honest we all will remember sometime ago in our community, the people of Patience, La Point , Lumabrd, Malgretout and Praislin were considered second class or third I can't remember, but I'm sure most of us remember there were a set of people from our community, that was considered, 'IT' if you know what I mean.
Well those times are gone, this was done to many because there was low self esteem amoung us, we were ignorant about alot of things,
I am not saying that the other people were not ignorant too, there was more ignorance in those days within the whole community, and I must say ignorance still exsist, this is mainly the reason for our ugly behaviour, so why are we not seeing that these things don't last, they don't make us better, if any thing I think it makes very guilty and it also shows a cowardly sign.
We are all one people, we belong to one community, we used to laugh and cry with eachother, and now we want to oppress each other, we don't try to encourage our peers and the people we once knew, instead we ask 'what and whom does she think she is? She is who she is, and no two people are alike, so why don't we accept who she is and if she makes a mistake try to guide her and help her pull through.
From what I have noticed happening on this site, we thrive on the threat of sending immigration to eachothers yard. We love the Immigration word. Like most of us migrated legally! Like most of us are legal ourselves, like others don't know where to get ourselves legal, just like they did. Some of us make it our duty to find out if this one has 'PAPERS' Everyone has 'PAPERS' you can get 'PAPERS
anywhere? You can even get documents, even in the bin, you get papers and documents, you can get whatever you want to, you just have to tell you self that if there is one thing you need you can get it! 'Yes You Can!' and you will...Who is the Woman? The Woman?...You? Me? Did you come up with the same answer? OK? Well.....
She is the woman whom neither you nor I, can be. Why? because she is the only one who can be her.
Why do we feel the need to shame her, why do we feel the need to help encourage another woman to help destroy her reputation.
What do we then teach the women of the future, who we are leaving with the legacy of destroying each other, when will we put a stop to our unpleasant behaviour. Why don't we support, encourage, love, respect, acknowledge, applaud, congratulate eachother in whatever the she chooses to do. Why don't we keep praying for ourselves and eachother and mean every word of it.
We all have different skills, levels of intelligence, of wisdom, knowledge, power, talents, etc, but you know what, that doesn't make us better than the other, this is what makes us unique, this is our gift, still amoung us, we can only do one at a time, because we are one being. God accepts us all, he doesn't have rejects, he forgives, he listens, he forgives, he comforts, he forgives, he loves and he forgives again and again, and if he does all this for us, why don't we begin helping him help us.
Being more intelligent than one doesn't necessarily mean you are smarter.
Having more skills than one, doesn't always mean you can make more money.
Being more religious than one, doesn't mean God only hears your prayers.
Life doesn't always hand us milk and honey, sometimes unfortunately we make bad judgements, mistakes, decisions etc, and we
end up in a position where we need each other or more so the support of eachother, but for the life of me, I really don't understand why some of us make it our duty to keep a women like us in the gutter and if she makes an effort to get out of there, we drag he back into it with all the strength we have.
Women don't let any other woman bring you down, we are not perfect, we all are capable of making changes in our lives, and if anyone throws dust in your face, shake this dust out of you body and when that same dust reaches the ground, take a step upward and I can gaurantee you one thing, you'll be happy you did.
Don't let anyone get to you, because you know what, if she knows that she has gotten to you, she is happy, she won, but if she realizes that no matter what she does, you can't care less, you are still full of life, good spirit, you remain calm, you are in control of youself, she then gets really upset at herself and directs her anger towards you at herself and the rest is history. The Lords Prayer is the most powerful prayer, and it doesn't go unheard. Not at all.
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